Monday, October 22, 2012

My personal endorsement for President Obama


Lately I have heard many people say they are tired of slandering within politics, and that they wish people would tell you why they are voting for their presidential candidate rather than why they are voting against the opposing candidate. I have even had some friends (some that I assumed were very conservative) ask me why I support President Obama. Although most of the time I tend to show people why I don’t support the other side, I would like to explain why I support President Obama. I have more reasons to vote for him than I do to vote against his opponent.

            I support President Obama because he passed the PPACA. To me, the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act has always been a no-brainer. As someone who feels like it is important that everyone have that security blanket, but also that everyone have affordable access, I was delighted when the Supreme Court voted in favor of the act. It wasn’t until more recently that this hit closer to home for me, though. My mother is one of the smartest people I’ve ever met, and she is definitely the most generous. She has spent her entire life taking care of others as a nurse, as a mother, as a friend, and as a fellow citizen. She spends all her free time knitting baby blankets, hats, and booties to donate to hospitals, and up until the day I moved out she would never let me sell my old clothes, but had me donate them instead. She is the woman who buys toilet paper or bread for the woman at the store who can’t afford it. She is the woman who once responded to a house fire as an EMT and gave her shoes to the victim that had only made it out of the fire in her nightgown. She is the woman that’ll give the coat off her back to someone who needs it.
            When forced to take early retirement because of her health, my mother moved to Iowa. She has been taking care of my autistic and diabetic brother for his entire life, and that didn’t change when she moved. We were able to get him onto Disability after the move. But, it was different for my mother. She pretty much became uninsurable by traditional health insurance standards because of pre-existing conditions, and because she was/is not 65 (Medicare). With cardiomyopathy, stage 3 kidney disease, type II diabetes, a history of skin cancer, and cataracts, nobody would insure her. Enter in the affordable care act here. Because of the act, an option became available for health insurance. Note: We are still currently raising funds to pay for the entire year of insurance (since the entire act has not passed yet, the cost of the insurance is still quite high), so the situation isn’t perfect, but it can save her life. There is also part of the Act that allows for a bridge between early retirement and Medicare. For the sake of continuing on with my reasons for supporting President Obama, I won’t elaborate much more than that, but if you’re interested in more information you can go to http://www.gofundme.com/ChristineKing, where my sisters and I have spilled the entire story.
            From my personal experience, and from receiving advice and hearing stories from others, I have come to realize how many lives have been saved because of the ACA. And those lives aren’t just numbers. My mother is not just a number. My family, my friends, their families, you, and your family and friends are not just numbers. I am not just a number. These next 12 months can be the difference between life and death for my mother, who has influenced and benefited so many lives, and the Affordable Care Act is helping give her a chance at life. There are also other fantastic qualities to the Act, including that when the entire bill goes into effect, it will, on average, save the average Medicare beneficiary $4,200 over the span of 10 years. That extra $400 (or so) a year can really make a huge difference. Also, another awesome benefit of the ACA is that children will remain on their parents health insurance until they turn 26 years old (which gives many students the opportunity to finish graduate school while remaining on their parents’ health insurance!) This means that 3.1 million young adults have gained health insurance since the bill has gone into effect.

            I support President Obama because he believes in gender equality. Now, frankly, I am appalled that this is even an issue. I understand the debate between pro-life and pro-choice, but the rest of the issues that have surfaced? It astounds me. This is 2012! I support President Obama because he understands how important it is for women to have equal rights. He understands that women do matter.
            The first bill that President Obama signed while in office was the Lily Ledbetter Act, ensuring that women will get paid the same amount as their counterparts. There is no reason why I, because I am a woman, should earn a lower income but pay the same for costs and fees as the man next to me. It still costs the same for us to eat, to buy a house or rent an apartment, pay car insurance, and to pay for basic necessities, amongst everything else. Before the Lilly Ledbetter Act, women on average were earning $0.23 less than their male counterparts. Although 23 cents does not sound like a lot, it really does add up.
            When it comes to women’s health issues, it is important to note that this covers a lot more than simply contraceptives and abortion. If you were wondering, although it is not relevant to what I am saying, I am pro-choice. But, that is not why I support President Obama in regards to women’s health. With the PPACA, women will gain health insurance for not only birth control (saving women up to $18,000 over the span of their lifetime), but also for preventative care. Not to mention, for women that cannot afford to go to the doctor, planned parenthood provides affordable pricing for both birth control and services. These services cover mammograms, cancer screenings and PAP tests. In fact, a friend of mine recently found a lump in her breast, and although she cannot afford to go get it screened by the doctor, she can get screened at Planned Parenthood. Many locations also cover services such as anemia testing, flu vaccinations, diabetes screenings, thyroid screenings, and tetanus vaccinations. Only 3% of their services are abortions, contrary to popular belief. In regard to contraceptives, this is where things get touchy. But first, let me note that Planned Parenthood can save women up to $40 per month for birth control. Now, continuing on… although I understand that people are against birth control and abortion because of religious ideas, I think many times we forget that others do not necessarily believe the same things that we do. If I am a hard core Christian that believes you shouldn’t have pre-marital sex, that doesn’t mean that the woman who doesn’t believe in God believes the same, and I should respect her and her decisions. She is her own person, and I am my own person. Many people also complain about Planned Parenthood being federally funded, but Planned Parenthood does amazing things. It changes lives and helps women who are in trouble. It prevents unwanted pregnancies (not necessarily through abortion) and prevents more financial strain on the government from children being born to women who cannot afford it. That goes without saying what kind of difficult life an unplanned child could potentially endure. When people say things such as “I don’t want my taxes to go to that,” let me just clarify that we all pay taxes, and we all have some thing that we don’t want our taxes going to. If you don’t want your money paying for it, then go ahead and think about it being mine and other supporter’s portion of taxes paying for it. Would you rather an unplanned and possibly unwanted child put more strain on your taxes? I support President Obama, because he understands how vital Planned Parenthood is to women and their health. He understands how vital health care coverage is. I also believe he understands that taking care of women also benefits men. He understands that women should not have to pay higher insurance rates because of gender.
            President Obama understands that being born a woman is not a negative thing, and that it should not be treated like a pre-existing condition (although under him, having a pre-existing condition isn’t looking so bad anymore). He believes that a woman’s choice is her own. He wants to ensure that women are treated equally, and he hopes that his daughters will not have to face the issues that us women, and the women who fought similar (if not the same) issues in the past, have faced and are facing. He wants his daughters, and all the daughters of America, let alone the world, to have the same rights as the sons of America. In his own words, “Lifting women up lifts up our economy and lifts up our country.” He believes that we are capable of so much more than being home in time to make dinner for our children and husbands, but still appreciates and respects us if that is our decision. I agree 100%.

            I support President Obama because he believes in Marriage Equality. I am a firm believer that people should be allowed to make decisions for themselves, especially when it is regarding the ones they love and their families. Many people who oppose Marriage Equality do so because of religious beliefs, and because they believe homosexuality is a sin and a choice. People have tried to prove that homosexuality is a choice, and it has been to no avail. Also, this goes back to what I said before in regards to different beliefs. Just because you believe it is wrong does not mean that someone else does, too. In fact, many people feel just as strongly that it is right as others do that it is wrong. What it boils down to is that unless you have been in another person’s shoes, you cannot understand how they feel, and you cannot tell them that their feelings are not real. Try to imagine how you would feel if someone told you that something you believed was wrong, even though you believe to the depths of your soul that it is right? I have witnessed many of my friends before, during, and after relationships with someone of their same gender, and I firmly believe, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that those feelings are real. I have seen the pain that many people have gone through as they face the persecution they receive from family, friends, and religions because of being homosexual. I have had the privilege of knowing many people who have gone to therapy for years to “fix” themselves. But you cannot fix something that is not broken. They feel the same love that heterosexuals do, and they feel the same pain that we do when a relationship reaches its end, or when they lose their significant other. I support President Obama because he also understands that their feelings are real, and he believes they should be allowed to have the same benefits that committed heterosexual couples do. He believes that different beliefs should not mean that people should be denied equality. He believes that when someone loses the person they love, they should be able to make legal decisions regarding healthcare, death, and assets. He believes that when they share their income and live together, they should be able to receive the same tax benefits as a heterosexual couple. And frankly, he believes everyone should be able to marry the person they love. When people are willing to spend years, or even decades together, whether they are straight or homosexual, they should be allowed to make their bond official. Once upon a time it was illegal to marry interracially, too. Now we all know that was ridiculous, and I believe that someday in the future, people will feel the same way about “gay marriage.”

            I support President Obama because supports the DREAM Act. The bill was written by Richard Durbin, along with Richard Lugar and others. The DREAM stands for “Development, Relief, and Education for Alien Minors.” The basic premise behind the DREAM Act is that children who were brought into the United States illegally by their “Alien” parents will not be deported back to their home country. Although Congress has stalled the bill, President Obama has halted deportation of young immigrants that are eligible under the Act. When someone grows up in the United States, although it may not be official, they are American. When the United States has been the only home you have ever really known, how could anyone, in good conscience, send them by force to a country they’ve hardly lived in and force them to try and live there? I support President Obama because he understands that being an American does not necessarily mean having 100% citizenship. He understands that America was founded by immigrants, and that we should not punish people for being brought to the country at a young age by their parents illegally. We shouldn’t send them away from their home. My wonderful brother-in-law, who went through the grueling (and expensive) citizenship process, stated “I support President Obama because he understands that being and American does not necessarily mean being born on American soil; being an American is something that you know in your mind and heart.”

            I support President Obama because he cares for all social classes. He is a firm believer that the economy should have a strong middle class to function properly. He also believes that the higher class should pay their fair share of taxes, which should be based off of percentage of income and not by lump sum. He believes the “trickle down effect” doesn’t work, and I agree. He believes that small businesses should not be forced into bankruptcy because of high taxes or inability to financially support a business because of medical costs due to lack of health insurance from pre-existing conditions. I recently heard a girl tell a story: before the President Obama took office, her father’s small business was failing due to high taxes, and because they couldn’t get health insurance for her mother because of cancer that had been in remission for quite a few years. Now, her mother is able to have health insurance and her father’s business is still going. President Obama has provided middle class tax cuts because he believes that it will help the middle class to flourish, succeed, and grow, and will help prevent people from being overcome by debt. He has provided tax cuts to small businesses so that they can function with less financial strain, and have a greater chance at success. President Obama was born to a family that struggled to make ends meet, and he worked very, very hard to get to where he is. He knows what it is like to struggle, and he spent a good portion of his career working with lower income communities because he felt that that was where he could make a difference.

            I support President Obama, because on top of caring for all social classes, he is an advocate for affordable education. He believes that students should be able to gain a secondary education without bankrupting themselves, their parents, or bringing upon them years upon years of debt (in my case, student loan debt is looking to take me 12 years to pay off, and I only took out loans for two semesters of school in 2005 and 2006). Starting in 2014, new student loan borrowers will be required to pay no more than 10% of their disposable income toward the loan. And, after 20 years the remaining debt they have will be forgiven. He has also doubled the size of pell grants and raised the amount of recipients by 50%. President Obama is a firm believer that educating young adults will benefit our economy, and I could not agree more.

            I support President Obama because he ended the war in Iraq, is in the process of ended the war in Afghanistan, and had Osama Bin Ladin killed. Although I don’t necessarily support murder, I do understand why he, and many other Americans, feel it was necessary. I support him because he appreciates our troops, and he cares for their safety. He is also gifted with foreign affairs, and he is able to look past political parties to see good people within both the Republican party and the Democratic party. He has appointed Republicans to important government positions because he sees beyond their party status.

            One of the most admirable things I find in President Obama is his general view on equality, which I have already touched on... a lot. I am a firm believer that we cannot build up our country if the foundation of people it is built upon are discriminated against and treated poorly because of gender, sexual orientation, race, or religious beliefs. I believe he feels the same way. One of his goals is to build up the people of our nation. He builds up women, he builds up students, he builds up minorities, he builds up the LGBT, and he builds up the middle class. And through all of this, he never stops building up the majority. He finds hope and pride when he sees people succeeding when the odds were against them, and he has already created, and will continue to create, pathways that will help others succeed. This is through the things I mentioned before, such as affordable health care, so that people will be okay if they have an accident or have a pre-existing conditions that could bankrupt them, through gender equality and equal pay, through tax breaks for small businesses and struggling families, through reducing student loan debt, and through equality for everyone. 

            Aside from the reasons that I support President Obama, there are many misconceptions that people have about him. I’d like to address a couple of those.

            First, and most easily explained, is the misconception that President Obama wants to change gun laws. Let me be blunt. He does not. He believes that the Second Amendment guarantees an individual right to bear arms, he has passed no new restrictions on guns, and not one law-abiding citizen has had their gun taken away by the federal government.

            Now, there is also a misconception about the economy. Right now the economy has hit the $16 Trillion mark for debt. So, since President Obama is POTUS, and we have this much debt, so it must be his fault, right? Well, actually, the answer is no. As President, Obama has only added 1.44 Trillion dollars to the debt. Although that is still a large number, it isn’t even comparable to the $5 trillion that people are attributing to him. The $1.44 Trillion the he has added to the deficit is actually money that was spent on policies that are being put into place to reduce the debt throughout the next few years. Although it didn’t propel us into recovery, it did prevent the recession from getting worse. It takes time to recover, and we are definitely headed in that direction. The rest of this astounding dollar amount actually comes from the recession, which started long before he became President. Mark Thoma wrote “How could it be that Obama's policies only contributed $1.44 trillion to the debt when it has risen around $5 trillion since he took office? The answer is the recession. During a recession tax revenue falls as income falls, and spending on existing social services such as unemployment compensation and food stamps increases. The result is a larger deficit. However, Obama didn't cause the recession -- it was already well underway when he took office -- and he cannot be blamed for the debt we've accumulated as a result of the downturn.” [http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-505123_162-57506201/national-debt-passes-$16-trillion-should-you-worry/] Although we should be concerned about the rising debt, it cannot be blamed solely on the President. Mark Thoma also said “…in the more immediate future, when we return to full employment, it will be important to at least stabilize if not reduce our debt load. But in the shorter run, when the economy is still below full employment as it is now, [Boehner’s] worries about the debt are misplaced. Deficit spending does not hurt the economy so long as debt loads remain below the critical threshold where investors worry about default, and there's no sign we are near that point. In fact, the evidence says that in the presence of high unemployment an increase in the deficit helps the economy so long as we make the necessary adjustments to taxes and spending….”

            Another hot topic is unemployment. Yes, the unemployment rate is at a very high percentage. But, there is still a misconception that jobs are not being created. When President Obama took office, the United States was losing hundreds of thousands of jobs per month. Although jobs continued to be lost for a few months after President Obama took office (you can’t magically snap your fingers and stop job loss), the number of jobs lost decreased significantly in his first year, and we have now had 31 straight months of job creation. [http://www.barackobama.com/economy?source=primary-nav] President Obama also believes that small businesses are key to helping create job growth, and he believes that we need to keep jobs within the United States rather than outsourcing to other countries. We are at our lowest unemployment rate since the recession started. And, although the opposition insists that under him he will create 12 million new jobs, the 5 sources opposition has used as support suggest that no matter who is president, 12 million jobs will be created anyway. But, President Obama has a plan to keep building more jobs.

            I do understand that this is a long post, but I tried to cover as many topics as I could, and this could have been a lot longer than it ended up being. If you have any questions for me, I am open to answering them. This post is strictly about why I support President Obama, and not about why I am against his opponent. If you want more information on why I am against the opposing Presidential Candidate, feel free to ask me.

I speak for President Obama because he speaks for me. Because of, and with him, we are changing the world.




Friday, May 18, 2012

Classy, Not Trashy


            As of late, I’ve been reflecting on my life and how it is in comparison to how it could have been.  Now a forewarning, some things I say may come off as offensive, but I feel it is best to be blunt and honest to better get my point across.

            I love my parents, but sometimes I feel that maybe they had too many children.  Together they had 9, with me being the youngest, and when my father remarried he bore another daughter and gained a step-daughter.  My parents were divorced when I was about 3 or 4.  When I was born, my family lived in a shoddy town named Meadow Lake, in New Mexico.  When I look back to what I can remember, along with seeing pictures and thinking of family videos we used to watch, all I can remember is dirty, unkempt, and trashy.  All 11 of us lived in a mobile home, and both of our parents worked full time.  I don’t remember much from that time since I was so young.  When my parents were divorced, my father raised the older kids and my mother raised the younger kids.  Now, let me give some insight into my parents backgrounds.

            My father grew up in New Mexico.  I only remember the later years of Grandpa Bowman’s life, and I don’t remember my biological Grandma (she died when I was about a year old). But, I do remember my step-grandma, Grandma Bowman.  She was the sweetest being under the face of the sun.  I remember going to their house and playing with American Girl Dolls with her..  She had Samantha, and my sister, Rebekah, bought Molly for me.  She also fed us really well.  It saddens me that I can’t remember much more than that.

            For the record, I know more about my mother’s background because I lived with her for over 20 years.  My mother was born in Iowa, and that’s always been where her heart lies.  Her father was a renowned basketball coach who coached great players such as Carl Nicks and Larry Bird.  When my mother was 14, my grandfather’s career brought them to New Mexico.  My biological grandmother was a model for Sears, but died at a young age because of ill-maintained diabetes.  My grandfather remarried, and my step-granda, Grandma King, is a fantastic woman. Even to this day, you can see how much love she had for my grandfather.  I most admire her, though, because she is a very classy woman, and I hope I am that classy when I get to her age..

            I don’t recall the story of how my parents met, and I’ll leave a lot of what I do know out of this (since a lot is biased opinion from one parent).  I love my dad, but I don’t feel he was the right match for my mother.  They have such drastically different backgrounds, and I feel like my mom got thrown under the bus.  It was such a big difference from the life she was raised in.  But, she was convinced my father was “the one.”  I also feel like my dad could have been happier with someone else.  They are just two very different people.

            Raising 9 kids can really take it’s toll on a person.  When my parents divorced, my mom took two of my brothers (the ones just older than me) and I, and we moved next door to my Bowman grandparents (ironic, huh?).  We lived there temporarily before my mom bought a mobile home in Los Lunas.  Now, it was a few steps up from Meadow Lake, but not fantastic.  My sisters and I like to say some of our siblings got “good genes” while others were not so fortunate.  Eventually my oldest brother, Jeff, had his sons move in, too.  My mother struggled to support us (because there were so many of us), and for a while there were 7 people living in the 3 bedroom, singlewide mobile home.  With the help of my sister, Daisy, though, we were able to maintain a decent household.  After the first few years, Daisy left for her LDS mission.  After that, the majority of life was spent in a messy home with bugs, and with a high level of violence dealt by one of my brothers.  The older of Jeff’s sons also took on the violent tendencies of the aforementioned brother.  The two brothers older than I are also very socially awkward, and both have mental handicaps, although neither are bad enough that they are not functional.  The brother just older than I (Ivan) is very violent, and feels like my mother owes him the world.  He and my nephew would break things, punch holes in walls, yell at people, and threaten everyone.  Ivan is also very selfish, and doesn’t care about anyone else.  Growing up he was always a momma’s boy, although it was very one-sided.  When I was a baby, he would bite my mother when she would hold me.  And he is a chronic boredom eater.  Even back in Los Lunas he was eating her into the poor house, although it isn’t as bad as it is now.

In middle school, my brothers had a reputation as the stinky Special Ed kids.  When I entered middle school, I was known as “Ivan and Jesse Bowman’s sister,” and not in a good way.  This prevented me from gaining friends, and caused me to be very socially inept.  I did have a couple of very good friends, though, and we are still friends to this day (Yay Cheryl, Francine and Andrea!).  

            High school was a defining period in my life.  I figure there were two routes I could have taken.  I was growing up in a white trash (yes, I said it) city with white trash people.  But, I didn’t let High School be a bad experience for me.  I was determined to avoid the stigma that was previously set for me in middle school.  From day one I came out of my shell and made a lot of friends.  Given, most of them were band nerds, but there were still a lot of them and I valued them very dearly.  I was kind of a weirdo in high school, with spiked hair and baggy clothes that were only in dark colors (unless they were red).  I always imagined I was pretty invisible to anyone that wasn’t my friend or wasn’t in the band, but in junior and senior years I was voted “most unique,” so I guess SOMEONE had to know who I was.

            Now, let me explain what I meant when I said things could have gone very differently for me.  Although my mother was not abusive (she wouldn’t hurt a fly), there has been abuse within my family.  Particularly in the males, there is a proneness to violence.  As mentioned before, we grew up with very little money in a dirty mobile home and a mother that was working overtime graveyard shifts the majority of the week..  Supporting 7 people is hard enough when those 7 people are “normal.”  My family is definitely not “normal.”  But, here’s where things get interesting.  Sometimes I look at facebook profiles of people I grew up with and realize that they are still white trash.  I look at friends who date men that are abusive, trashy, and rude.  I look at friends that cannot spell worth a damn, even though we attended the same high school and the same classes.  I look at people who still dress the same as they did in high school, and not in a good way.  I look at people who spend all of their time being high.  I look at people who I grew up with that have children they can’t take care of.  I look at pictures taken of people I grew up with, and they are STILL in Los Lunas (come on guys, at least move to Albuquerque or Rio Rancho).

            My mother worked very hard to provide a better life for me.  She supported me through college at the University of Utah, and tried to give me everything I wanted and needed.  I think she was very determined to help me have a great life.  I wish I could give her what she wants.  She is an incredible woman, who has a heart bigger than anyone else I have ever met.  She is exceedingly smart, but was handed the short end of the stick when she married 40 years ago.  In September I moved out on my own (when I was done with college -- for the most part), and she retired, bought a home, and moved back to Iowa.  I feel terrible, because I was able to get out of the hard situation, and she was not.  Moving back to Iowa has been her dream, but my brother, Ivan, has moved out there with her, and is eating her out of house and home.  It’s almost as if his dream is to destroy her dream. As stated before, he feels she owes him everything.  He has gained a significant amount of weight, and is tipping the scales at over 300 lbs (and he is only about 5’6”).  He refuses to get a job, and sits at home all day playing video games.  He has been this way since he was 18, and getting a high school diploma has been his life’s crowning achievement, along with beating some video games.  He has held one job, which was at Deseret Industries (equivalent to the Salvation Army), and was fired.  Yes, he was fired from the DI.  No, I also did not know that was possible.  I hope someday she will kick him out and be happy.  She deserves to spend the last years of her life loving her living situation..  I fear she won’t be happy until that happens.  I’m not going to stop trying to convince her to kick him out until she does, and I hope I’m not alone in that.  Jesse has a job and helps around the house, and has been a good companion to my mom.

I look at my siblings, and they have (for the most part) also been saved from the fate that could have come upon them.  Jeff lives in Idaho with a sweet wife and a handful of children.  Greg lives in New Mexico still, but works really hard to make his way through life.  He is a very hard worker.  Eric has a beautiful family, and has lived his adult life serving our country.  Rebekah is a dental assistant and is living a great life, and has a pretty badass dog.  Amy has a handful of children, and just graduated as a surgical tech.  She became the first student from her school to gain entry into the Association of Surgical Technologists National Honor Society, because she had 100% attendance and a 4.0 GPA.  Daisy married a wonderful man named Ramses.  I can honestly say he is one of the most fantastic people I have ever met.  I mean, he must be if he could handle Daisy enough to marry her!  They now live in Pennsylvania with their two awesome dogs.  Not only is Daisy my sister, she is also one of my best friends in the world.  We share similar views on the world, and if we don't, she doesn't judge me.  She is with me in the gratitude we have knowing that we successfully made it to a better life than we were aimed towards.  She will also listen to anything I have to say, and I can talk to her when nobody else is willing to listen.  I don't really talk to my step sister, Michelle, but I'd sure like to get in contact with her and do some catching up.  Jesse lives in Iowa with my mom and works as a janitor at a Methodist church.  I'm proud of him for holding down a job and working hard to maintain a household with my mom.  Ivan... well, I just talked about him.  I don't have much more to say.  Mary is attending college and has a boyfriend that she's been with for years.  I can tell she is happy with her life, too (although her life path wasn't as threatening as the rest of us).  

I am now 25, and I live in an apartment with my dog, Ginny, my roommate, Milagra, and her cat, Neko..  When I was 18, I got the hell out of dodge as soon as I could.  My mother and brother(s) moved with me.  It was the best decision I could have made for all of us.  I attended the University of Utah for a bachelor’s in Music Education.  I have gained many good friends that I wouldn’t give up for the world. I have dated some good guys, and some duds. Currently, I am dating the most wonderful guy I’ve ever met.  I met him two days before I started the best job I have ever had, and had my first date with him after work on my first day.  I met him through the amazing hobby I have ever taken up, which is cycling.  I appreciate him more than he could possibly know.  His family is amazing, too.  I currently work as a receptionist at a beautiful and prestigious law firm.  I associate myself with smart and fun people.  Last weekend I flew my mother in for Mother’s Day, and we spent the majority of the weekend with my boyfriend’s family.  At one point during the weekend I was trying to pick an outfit to wear for an event, and I kept asking her how my outfit choices looked. Finally she said “I don’t know where you get your sense of style.  It sure isn’t from me!”  That doesn’t seem like a big deal, but for me it has was.  It has been a major goal of mine to be classy and not white trashy, and to live a life that I can be proud of.  Above all, I appreciate the people and things that have happened to help me to be where I am now.

To anyone that thinks you are stuck in your situation, trust me, you’re not.  You really can do and be whatever you want to be.  

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Out with the old, in the with the new... year.

Holy crap!  It's 2012!

Just as I was settled in to 2011, it turned into 2012.  Doesn't it always seem to go that way?  But, that doesn't mean 2011 was not a good year for me.  In fact, it really was a superb.  Here are some highlights!

Milagra in our new apartment.

·        I moved into my first apartment.  It's rather small, but I have my dog with me, I have one of my best friends as a roommate, and it is a fantastic location.   
·        I lost 33 lbs, and have maintained most of that.
Milagra and I with our new bikes.
·        I quit my job at Snowbird and started a receptionist job downtown at a legal firm.  I love it!
·        I've dated some dudes, I've dated some duds, but at the end of the year, I still knew who I was (which is more than I can say for the end of 2010).
Rock Climbing
·        I took up cycling, and it is one of the best decisions I have made in my life.  Ever.
·        I've gained a plethora of new friends and think they are great people to be associated with.
·        I reconnected with some very good friends, only to find out we still get along just as well as before.
·        I took up rock climbing, and went canyoneering.
·        I've made it 4 months with no internet or cabled TV (just DVDs) in my new apartment.
 
Canyoneering
·        I've been growing my hair out, and it's now the longest it has been since I was about 8 years old.
·        I went to Portland/Corvallis, Philadelphia, Colorado Springs, and New York City for the first time, along with attending my first Boise Pride Festival.
·        I read a lot more books than ever before, and utilized my library card very well.


         
Daisy and I in Philadelphia.
   It's been a great year.  I am a completely different person than I was a year ago, and I love it.  I think it is important to realize that happiness is a decision.  I don't understand how people can live their lives being okay with unhappiness.  I used to, and I got sick of it.  I think the major lesson I learned in 2011 is that it's not worth it to dwell on pain.  
At the Boise Pride Festival
This doesn't necessarily mean that you shouldn't be upset or  hurt, but I feel it is important to learn to not let it eat away at you.  
There's a time and a place for everything.  For example, If you are sitting alone at your apartment when someone hurts you, read a book or go for a walk.  Call a friend to grab a bite to eat, or watch a movie.  Don't stew.  Also, friendships can help you through anything. Learning this has changed my life.  

I wonder how the next year will go for me.  I've come up with some resolutions that I'd like to accomplish:

·        Lose 15 lbs.  As I stated before, I maintained MOST of my weight loss.  I never officially reached my goal weight, though, so I'd like to do that.
Ginny's Dog Food Portions M-S
·        Get Ginny down to a healthy weight.  She has always been a little chunky, but since I moved into my apartment, Ginny has put on some weight.  Two days ago, we started going to the dog park. Next, I portioned out all of her meals for the next week with Beneful Healthy Weight dog food (with 3 meals portioned out per day), so starting today, she is on a diet.  I think she has the easy part!  I get to portion out her meals every single week!
·        Socialize Ginny.  She's never really been around other dogs very much, so my goal is to help her be comfortable around unknown dogs.  Usually she has to warm up to them.
·        Save up money for Graduate School (undisclosed amount for this year), or buy a new saxophone.
·        Ride my bike to work 75% of the time.  This might take me a little time to get started, since I’ve never commuted much on my bike (and it is freeeeezing outside), but I love the idea of this. It means I would ride to work approximately 16 days out of 20 work days a month.  This also helps with my next goal…
·        Don't fill up my gas tank more than once every 3–4 weeks.  I hate buying gas.  So, my goal is to avoid it.
·        Volunteer at the Bicycle Collective regularly.

And last, but definitely not least (on the contrary; it is my very favorite goal):

·        Building a new bike from the frame up.  I never really knew much about bikes, and I’d really like to learn, so my goal is to build a bike from the frame up.  My plan is to make a single speed road bike with a flip flop hub so that I can also use it as a fixie, if I so desire. 

This year is looking to be a good one.  It’ll be a year focused on bettering my life, and bettering my dog’s life.  It’ll be an adventure, that’s for sure!

Portland.